LET’S PRETEND WE ARE GRABBING A CUP OF COFFEE…
but seriously, lets have a chat! I had a coffee date a few weeks ago with a close friend, we wandered onto the topic of my blog: how it was doing? How the hiatus has made me feel? What are my next steps and big dreams? I had to pause for a second because even after our last chat, I feel like I still have a lot left to say:
They say that “comparison is the thief of joy”, and “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” and probably a million other things that make us look inwards as bloggers. But does anyone else out there feel like it’s so hard to BE YOURSELF anymore?! That if we posted what we wanted to post when we wanted to post it, it won’t garnish the likes, the comments, or the engagement ratings our potential collaborators are looking for? Since when did we allow our real lives to play into a game of statistics? I am so ready to change that perspective, and stand up against the struggle!
The battle is real, and I have to speak out about staying true to myself. I love seeing my content shared across a thousand different platforms, tags and re-grams showing up daily, and pins going viral – it’s all incredibly exciting! As a designer, it is so important for me to be inspired! To be curious and to create, it is a beautiful thing, but when we start re-creating our Pinterest boards verbatim IRL, are we doing ourselves a disservice? Someone once told me to stop looking to Pinterest, that whatever I find there will have already been done. To do my best work, I must create something incredible, and do it without copycatting. We live in an incredibly visual world, ads and branding and marketing materials are all so stunning, and so easy to be inspired by, but where is the line where inspiration becomes copycatting?
How can we push ourselves and set ourselves apart from the norm? How can we choose to create content from a genuine and truthful place, WITHOUT the veneer?
It is incredibly important to create an open dialogue with readership, and I want to stay true to that vision! I want to be the person online that I am in photos, and that I am on coffee dates or lunch meetings – in the real world. To be completely honest, I have been struggling with being my most genuine self. Let’s be real: I don’t always look like I do in photos – all done up with perfectly accessorized layers. And I don’t always drink perfect cafe late’s, I don’t even sit down to inhale my coffee most of the time, and I don’t always live my best life. I even live/work in the city, but it’s not always perfect building backdrops, stunning parks and sunset views, sometimes those things are all picture perfect, but I choose to breathe it in, no cell phone or camera in sight.
My life is imperfect, and in that, its completely perfect for ME.
When I begin to feel short of my goals, my aspirations, I want someone to challenge me to break the cycle, to shake it off and to give it another go – this time from another point of view. I am only asking these hard hitting questions because I am no longer feeling challenged, and at the same time, I am feeling so compelled to say something to the community about how important it is to be yourself. Come at your brand from a new perspective.
I challenge you to allow yourself the chance to think freely, and not based on someone else’s flatlay, someone else’s clothes rack, or someone else’s Saturday style city skyline. Use the places nearest and dearest to you, the roads in your hometown, and the places that surround you, don’t force it, don’t drive a thousand miles, just capture your life from your perspective.
You are the perfect person to tell your story, no one else can copy that.